Reasons Gen Z fail at dating (2020 Twist)

Getting into relationships has changed over time- from writing letters to calling someone on the phone to simply sliding in someone’s DM or being a right swipe on Tinder.

I read an article written by Andrea Wesley, that mentions 11 reasons why dating as a Millennial is screwed. Although, I agree with some of the reasons she mentions, I do not fit into the Millennial category.

I am a part of GEN Z, if you are not familiar with the GEN Z term, KASASA mentions that GEN Z  is the generation that was born between 1995-2015. Therefore, I will speak for the Gen Z!

Now, I am not a dating expert, but I will base my reasons off personal experience, observations, and the experience from others. (This is opinion-based).

So here are my reasons...

1. We carry baggage from past relationships/situations with someone else

-Often, we tend to think that all girls/guys are the same based on our experiences with someone else. Therefore, we get into new relationships or talk to someone new expecting them to act/behave the same as the person in the past.

2. We base our relationships on social media couples

-We often are inspired by social media couples and desire to be exactly like them, there is nothing wrong with admiring someone else's relationship. However, when we try to mimic that relationship. It leads us to being unhappy with the person we are currently with.

3. There is no effort in getting the person you want

-What I mean by this is guys or girls are no longer trying as hard to make their partner feel special. And once they do get the person they want, the effort slowly starts to die down. For example, less time planning dates, fewer compliments or even thoughtful gestures. (The same energy it took you to get someone is the same energy you need to keep them).

4. We are not straightforward

-We fail at being honest with someone from the beginning, it’s very important to tell someone the truth before leading them on.  For example, is this something serious or just casual?

5. Fail at apologizing

-We put our pride before saying sorry when we are in the wrong. This can lead to a relationship ending or the talking stage never continues. Simply because we don’t like to take accountability for our actions.

6. We lack communication skills

-We are terrible at telling someone how we truly feel, instead, we hold onto all the problems together and then explode at once, when you could have addressed the problem when it happened. Also, we don’t like to be confrontational, we rather get mad through text instead of having a face-to-face conversation.

7. We  are so big on “Who’s going to text first”

-Another pride issue, if you are interested in someone, stop letting your ego get in the way of a simple text message. Just because you are the one who sends the first message, doesn’t make you seem thirsty, nor does it mean you are trying to care too much. You are simply just trying to get to know someone.

8. We plan our future with someone way too EARLY

-When we are dating someone seriously-we plan families, marriage, and future careers with them. Instead, we should be living in the moment! It would be nice if the relationship last a long time, but don’t get ahead of yourselves. We’re young.

So those are my reasons why I think my generation fails at the dating life, did you relate to any of those reasons? Let me know!